The 'BARKING OWL' always has something to say, and like the feathered version, can be either WISE...............or ANNOYING!







Saturday, August 27, 2011

GROWING WILD or "WHAT WERE MY PARENTS THINKING?"

At our family reunion this weekend, where all 8 of the siblings were together with their respective kids and Grandkids, one of the apparent theme's became "What were our parents thinking?".

In a large family each segment of the troop was actually raised in a different world than the others.  I can testify that even within the time it took to rear our minor brood of three, my wife and I modified our parenting quite a bit.  But my parents had 16 years between the births of oldest brother Tom and littlest sister Barbara.  As the sixth born, I was definitely in the second half, but I wonder about Mary and Pat who were numbers four and five; do they constitute their own mid-section of the family?  Or if we separate them into parts one and two, doesn't that create an overly imaginary breach between their otherwise shared experiences?

Forever young!
Admittedly Tom Paul and George (1,2 and 3) created their own trilateral world to live and play and fight in, but Barb's teen aged life was so far removed from theirs (60's vs 80s; Chicago's south side vs Wisconsin's south side; Vibrant young parents vs a newly deceased Mom and mourning Dad), that she had to ask: "What did you guys do with yourselves at night?  Did you have a curfew?"

The answer?  Yes, our inquiring minds do want to know.  "What's a curfew?"  Mom and Dad were extremely (re)lax(ed) when it came to controlling/ monitoring their kids, and we kids never did get around to objecting.  On the south side of Chicago through the 50's and, in my case, the 60's; what could go wrong?  We were warned about strangers with candy, yes, but still allowed to disappear into distant unknown environs for many hours at a time.

My young friends were not to cross any of the streets of our block, so I had to go alone if I wanted to see the world.  Sometimes walking (8 block lengths is a mile BTW), or bike riding and sometimes on the bus or the El (elevated train).  One time Pat and I went all the five miles to Midway airport and back on three wheels.  Not a tricycle, but taking turns with one bike and a unicycle.

These old farts are now too old to do anything but!


The older guys have many stories to tell about bad influences, bad habits, bad guys and bad girls.  And as far as I know, Mom and Dad never had much of a clue about what was going on.  My own memories of being mugged, robbed, manhandled and punched, all before high school, never made it back home either.  I can't speak for other's motivations, but I thought I should protect my folks from worrying about me.  Not that they necessarily would have; after all, my apparent duty was to be 'growing wild'.




Monday, August 8, 2011

Resisting Natural Instincts

We generally think of 'instincts' as a type of innate irresistible sense certain animals have.  Salmon somehow find the streams they were hatched in after wandering through many miles of ocean, for example.  But some actions seem to be ANTI -instinctive.  What kind of guy sticks his unshod foot into the writhing belly of a feisty cat?  And what kind of cat resists his natural impulse to shred said foot?

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Well, that would be me, and mine!
If you look in the dictionary under Anti instinctive, perhaps you will see a little picture of Mike and Jackson, demonstrating the concept.